L.A. Mayor Wants To Live In La-la Land

That Los Angeles Mayor Antonio Villaraigosa was having an affair with another woman is not unusual these days. You take a man in a position of power, a twenty year old marriage that had, had its ups and downs, an attractive single news woman and, well, it's an all too common story.

But what I want to focus on today is the comment I heard the Mayor make this past week. Now, remember this is not old news, the affair is going full bore, divorce papers have been filed, so it's really still a hot topic especially since Villaraigosa was quick to "tend his image as a devoted family man."

The first thing he said was he takes "full responsibility for his actions." But what exactly does that mean? What it should mean is that his wife of twenty years should be able to write the terms of her divorce. After all, since he acknowledges that he is the cause, he is the faulty party then he must pay the consequences. But that is rarely the reality of such situations. The real issue though I have is the statement he made saying, "It's time to move on."

What this actually means is, "I'm tired of being confronted with the fallout of my choices and want to pretend I can sin without consequences." Well that's wonderful for the perpetrator but what about everyone else? Twenty years spawns all kinds of relationships within families and friends and now that all changes. What about Villaraigosa's 14 year old daughter? She should just "move on" and accept the changes that come with dad's self absorption and she must not dare to show any displeasure with her father's new found love. After all, he--the perpetrator--has declared "it's time to move on."

Well, sorry Mayor but you can't toss a twenty megaton bomb into your family's lives and then walk away after a couple months or even years and just insist that "everyone move on."

For the innocent by-standers it will never be the same--ever and whatever fall out they seem to blow your way goes with the territory of your decisions. You took responsibility, remember? That means it's your responsibility to put up with all the crud and all the heart ache and heartbreak of those who are affected by your selfishness. Saying its time to move on isn't your prerogative. You made your bed--now try sleeping in it.